Like so many other relationships in my life, I first spoke to him in a gymnasium. I was shooting basketball by myself one afternoon at my Church, in 2006. He came walking through to put something away.
As I had heard him sing on Sundays for sometime, I stopped to tell him he really enhanced the services and I received a great deal from his singing.
It grew from there.
After the services once in a while I would speak to him and encourage him. As I knew he was getting a small salary I sometimes shook his hand and had placed money in mine.
The voice I hear inside my heart pushed me toward him.
I was supposed to encourage and prompt him, maybe get involved.
I knew in my “knower” that he had more in store for him than where he was. There were bigger stages from which he would be singing.
Having written a few things throughout my life, after my mother died in 2006 I wrote a song. about her…or about what I had gained from her influence. CJ read the lyrics and i asked him to put them to music. As I sat one day and heard him put notes and sounds to my words I knew what I was to do with and for him.
After getting CJ to agree, he met my nephew, who was and is a recording and mixing engineer.
We then went to Florence/Muscle Shoals where CJ and my nephew, Chris recorded the song I had written and about four songs CJ had put together.
The purpose of the trip was not to get my song done.
There were bigger stages from which CJ would be singing.
This was knowledge which was settled in my mind.
We traveled back to Muscle Shoals again to complete the recordings and I invested the money to get the musicians and get the work done to complete the disc. In my mind, it had to be done.
I probably irritated him at times to get it finished.
It got finished.
It was good.
There was no motive but to get this young man from Georgia on his way to where I was being told he should go.
I believe that is the role we are given when we come into relationships with younger people. If we do not get invested with those we are led or drawn to….we are failing them. I was not going to fail this young man…..for I had grown to love him….and was convinced of his potential.
I was convinced about those bigger stages.
CJ is not in my age bracket nor do we look anything alike.
Yet, there has been an absolute connection between us since we met.
The “businessman”….as he referred to me after our first conversation…and the young singer.
The businessman who was grown up in his life and career and the young man who was getting started and was looking into his future with enormous possibilities.
You could see those possibilities.
His career took a hit in August of 2007. His boss left and he felt his opportunity was about to be shutdown. A couple of days later I was sitting in the Sanctuary, alone, thinking through all the thoughts and emotions of the days before, and CJ walked by.
Coincidence?
Coinsidences are not coincidences when they are too big to be coincidences.
He was down, distraught and devastated. He had been brought to Birmingham by the guy who had just left. He said that he felt his time here was limited and would end soon.
I knew there was more to come for him.
As we talked that day I encouraged him. There had been a sermon preached at some point before that and I quoted a line that was perfectly appropriate. He was saying how he felt and I spoke to him the words….and you have heard this phrase….
“It’s Friday….but Sunday’s coming”.
I repeated that to him several times in the days and weeks following.
Sunday came.
He began to take leadership in the worship services.
Several leaders in town began asking him to sing at different venues.
As we ate lunch at different times I heard about these opportunities and knew they were part of and were preparing him for those larger stages I believed he was to sing from.
Many times as he sang, I was drawn to walk down the aisle and worship not at my seat but from the altar. For the GIFT which was in CJ was more than just his voice….It was God speaking to people…to me…and drawing everyone to Him. That is what worship is….God drawing His people…and His people responding and walking closer to Him.
As he grew in that GIFT and as he grew in the opportunities being presented to him he was getting noticed. He was presented with an opportunity to lead worship at a larger church, out of state…..yet he came to realize that in spite of an attractive offer, it was not the thing for him.
Maturity rising.
When he shared that opportunity with me I knew the larger stages he was to walk on were not far off. I did not want him to go….but that’s why we learn how to walk. When its time to go…after we have learned to walk….we are most definitely to walk toward and into the opportunities being laid out before us.
I care so deeply for this young man, and now for his wife and children. My wife and I have had them in our home at different times. As they were house hunting, my motive was to get them interested in a house near us.
Selfish……?
Absolutely.
I have had nothing to do with his talent. I have had nothing to do with his advance. But, I knew what I WAS to do and that was to invest myself in him, and trust that it was to be productive for him.
I have given rise to no children from my body. Yet, my God has given me the privilege to invest what he has given me in a few people.
CJ is not my biological son. However, from my perspective I consider him a son, spiritually gifted to me by God. The Joy I derive from hearing him exercise the Gift given him draws me into the presence of God. Hearing him now fills me with a fullness which consists of Thankfulness, and Happiness and I cannot imagine any father being more proud of a son.
He is now singing from a very large stage.
He is singing in front of thousands in cities across this country.
He is the worship leader at what I believe is one of, if not the, fastest growing church in America. He has traveled to Australia and Africa and led them in worship. He sings at events where there are thousands in attendance…..drawing them into worship and into the presence of The One Who gave him his gift. When I hear him sing now I want to…and do sometimes …spread my arms out wide and soak in the worship and once in a while I yell….out of that fullness and joy for what I hear and what has occurred for him.
After hearing him be the featured singer last Christmas, I spoke to him afterward.
Or I tried to.
That feeling rose in my throat and welled up in my eyes as I looked at this young man of whom I am so proud and told him…..that those larger stages we had talked about earlier were now under his feet and he was excelling on them.
There are bigger ones to come.
Terry
August, 2015